Do you recognise that? You have some spare time and would like to spend it usefully? You can do so, for example, by becoming a buddy in the Etten-Leur municipality. Because as a buddy, you can mean so much to someone else! Volunteer Nathalie became Jeanne's buddy eighteen months ago. But they feel they have known each other for much longer. Together, they talk about how they experience their contact.

“I was in the doldrums. I had been a carer and suddenly I didn't have to,” Jeanne says. “I took care of my ex-husband for a long and long time. When he died, I suddenly had oceans of time. I took in Snoetje and Bolleke, the cats, and started taking care of them. It felt like I had to, but it was also good, because it got me moving again. Especially the cuddling with the cats, the social part, helped me. When I realised this, I contacted my GP. He referred me to Surplus.”

Working together
Nathalie: “I was already working as a volunteer at Surplus. They asked me if I wanted to become a buddy. That seemed like a good idea. I like the one-to-one contact. I like really looking together at what is needed to put someone ‘back in life’. Trying out activities together, what makes you happy, what do you really like to do? I also notice that it gives me energy when she takes steps. She is doing better, but I am also happier and more positive in life. It is also just so important just to be with someone!”

On the move again
In between, Jeanne shows a newspaper article asking for drivers. She says she is interested. “Sounds good. Nice, Jeanne, that you keep an eye on those vacancies,” Nathalie responds. “So nice to see how you have regained momentum yourself. I admire your spirit. So much will, so much positive energy.” Jeanne: “I surprise myself when I suddenly realise that I take initiative myself. I have become more active. And when Nathalie visits, I make sure everything is tidy beforehand. That's part of the job. Every Sunday I have a clean-up day. I don't really feel like it, but eventually it relieves. That's done and Monday is a good start to the week. I am sure you would like another cup of coffee?” After a ‘Sure, delicious!’, Nathalie says: “We also do exercises together, like writing down which qualities belong to you.” Jeanne: “Yes, I was positively surprised! Oh, that's me!” I suddenly thought. I can do a lot more than I sometimes think. I put that exercise next to my pillow."

First outing
Nathalie: “We actually undertake quite a lot, eh Jeanne. Besides those assignments, we often go out. One time we tried out the Floralia Garden.” Jeanne: “That was our first outing.” Nathalie: “The other time we go hiking or we look up if there are any volunteer work vacancies that you like.”

Never too old to change
Jeanne: “I have already done a lot in my life. And fortunately, I still have my family and other contacts. But I don't see them every day. I have a fixed routine. I go and get the newspaper every morning and have a chat with the people I meet on the way. You always meet someone who wants to have a chat.” Nathalie: “Jeanne shows me what is still possible. Even though you are older and have been through a lot, she is still powerful, vital and resilient.” To Jeanne: “Also, you show me that you are never too old to change your life, to choose for yourself.”

Become a buddy too?
Or find out a bit more about what it entails? An afternoon or evening a week can mean so much! Petra de Kramer, buddy aid consultant, can tell you all about it. She can be reached at petra.dekramer@surplus.nl or call 0162 - 74 86 00.